{"id":101703,"date":"2023-06-20T10:06:07","date_gmt":"2023-06-20T10:06:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/?p=101703"},"modified":"2023-06-20T10:06:07","modified_gmt":"2023-06-20T10:06:07","slug":"dunyasi-yikildi-25-yillik-evliliginde-kocasinin-kadin-oldugunu-ogrendi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/?p=101703","title":{"rendered":"D\u00fcnyas\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131: 25 y\u0131ll\u0131k evlili\u011finde kocas\u0131n\u0131n \u201ckad\u0131n\u201d oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frendi"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u0130smini a\u00e7\u0131klamak istemeyen 25 y\u0131ll\u0131k evli ve \u00fc\u00e7 \u00e7ocuk annesi bir kad\u0131n, mutlu bir evlili\u011fi oldu\u011fu sanr\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n \u201cbir g\u00fcnde\u201d k\u00f6k\u00fcnden yok oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n

Daily Mail\u2019in haberine g\u00f6re, ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlatan kad\u0131n, e\u015fini \u00f6nce kad\u0131n k\u00fclotu giyerken yakalad\u0131, ilerleyen y\u0131llarda da ad\u0131n\u0131 Charlize olarak de\u011fi\u015ftirdi\u011fini ve hormon tedavisine ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frendi. Bu da kendisi ve \u00fc\u00e7 \u00e7ocu\u011fu \u00fczerinde onulmaz etkiler b\u0131rakt\u0131.<\/p>\n

Transfobik olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 vurgulayan kad\u0131n, eski e\u015fini yarg\u0131lamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ancak 25 y\u0131ll\u0131k evlili\u011fin ard\u0131ndan \u201ckendini kand\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f\u201d hissetti\u011fini ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 \u00fcz\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in kayg\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirtti.<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n kocas\u0131n\u0131 ilk olarak nas\u0131l yakalad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u015fu s\u00f6zlerle anlatt\u0131: \u201cYanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131kla onu evde Noel i\u00e7in bana ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 k\u00fclotu giymi\u015f halde buldum. \u00c7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. \u00dc\u00e7 gen\u00e7 \u00e7ocu\u011fumuz alt katta, \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma odas\u0131nda birlikte film izliyorlard\u0131.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBu, elbette, en b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015foktu. Bu ger\u00e7ek\u00fcst\u00fc manzaray\u0131 izlerken zaman birka\u00e7 saniye dondu. K\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 ruj s\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cAdil olmak gerekirse, \u00e7ok utanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131. 25 y\u0131ld\u0131r evliyiz ve 20\u2019li ya\u015flar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131ndan beri birlikteydik. Benden iki ya\u015f b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fc, \u00e7ok uyumlu g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyordu. Onu sevdim. <\/span>Biz \u00e7ok mutlu, normal bir aileydik ya da bana \u00f6yle geliyordu. Hayat\u0131n piyangosunu kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 san\u0131yordum.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u00c7\u0130FT TERAP\u0130S\u0130NE BA\u015eLADILAR<\/b><\/p>\n

G\u00f6rd\u00fcklerini kimseye s\u00f6ylemeyen kad\u0131n, utand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00e7ift terapisine gitmeye ba\u015flad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlatt\u0131. Kocas\u0131 da, \u201csadece\u201d biraz kad\u0131n k\u0131yafeti giymek iste\u011fi oldu\u011fu konusunda g\u00fcvence verdi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Durumu kabullenen kad\u0131n, bir g\u00fcn herkes d\u0131\u015far\u0131dayken i\u00e7inden gelen sese hakim olamad\u0131 ve tavan aras\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131. Orada, 43 numara topuklu ayakkab\u0131, file taytlar, makyaj malzemeleri, sabahl\u0131klar ve uzun, kumral bir peruk i\u00e7eren tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir bavul buldu.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tekrardan bir \u015fok ya\u015fayan kad\u0131n, \u00e7ift terapisine devam ettiklerini ama kocas\u0131n\u0131n e\u015fcinsel olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 konusunda \u0131srar etti\u011fini belirtti.<\/p>\n

Bu \u015fekilde \u00e7ok aile oldu\u011funu bildi\u011fi i\u00e7in yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak amac\u0131yla ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 anlatan kad\u0131n, \u201c\u0130\u00e7lerinde hissettikleri cinsiyeti ifade etmek veya o cinsiyete d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fmek isteyen insanlara her zaman \u015fefkat ve deste\u011fin b\u00fcy\u00fck bir savunucusu oldum. Tek iste\u011fim ailelerinin zarar g\u00f6rmemesi.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cE<\/span>\u015fleri ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131, genellikle bir gecede, sevdikleri ki\u015finin tamamen farkl\u0131 bir versiyonuyla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131yor. Yine de \u00e7o\u011fu zaman bu e\u015flere ve \u00e7ocuklara \u015fefkat g\u00f6sterilmez ve kendilerine bak\u0131lmaz, bunun yerine bir kenara at\u0131l\u0131r, unutulur ve hatta ba\u011fnazl\u0131kla su\u00e7lan\u0131rlar.\u201d dedi.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0130Y\u0130LE\u015eT\u0130\u011e\u0130N\u0130 S\u00d6YLED\u0130<\/b><\/p>\n

E\u015fi, k\u0131l\u0131k de\u011fi\u015ftirmesinin evliliklerindeki d\u00fczenli seks eksikli\u011fine bir tepki oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi, yani k\u0131smen kad\u0131n\u0131n hatas\u0131yd\u0131.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ancak kad\u0131n bunun i\u00e7in de, \u201cOnu i\u00e7 \u00e7ama\u015f\u0131r\u0131mla g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm i\u00e7in onunla ger\u00e7ekten seks yapmak istemiyordum. Ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnece\u011fini bilmiyordum. O ben olmay\u0131 m\u0131 tercih ederdi? Buna ra\u011fmen kendimi s\u00fckuneti korumaya zorlad\u0131m ve daha d\u00fczenli seks yapmaya devam ettim. <\/span>Geriye d\u00f6n\u00fcp bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131mda, \u00e7aresizce her \u015feyi eskisi gibi tutmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yordum. Aileyi par\u00e7alamamak i\u00e7in her \u015feyi yapard\u0131m.\u201d dedi.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Sonras\u0131nda adam \u201ciyile\u015fti\u011fini\u201d s\u00f6yleyerek \u00e7ift terapisini b\u0131rakt\u0131lar ancak kad\u0131n, e\u015finin \u00e7evirdi\u011fi gizli i\u015flerinden ve yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 al\u0131\u015fveri\u015flerden haberdar oldu.<\/p>\n

Bunun \u00fczerine \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 evde ancak \u00e7ift olarak ayr\u0131 ya\u015famaya karar veren kad\u0131n, kocas\u0131n\u0131n daha a\u00e7\u0131k bir ya\u015fam stilini benimsedi\u011fini g\u00f6rd\u00fc.<\/p>\n

EV Y\u00dcZ\u00dcNDEN B\u0130RB\u0130RLER\u0130NE G\u0130RD\u0130LER<\/b><\/p>\n

\u0130lerleyen y\u0131llarda \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fckten sonra \u00e7ift yollar\u0131n\u0131 ay\u0131rd\u0131 ve taraflar maddi y\u00f6nden de \u00e7eki\u015fmeli bir s\u00fcrece girdiler. Ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131 ev nedeniyle anla\u015fmazl\u0131\u011fa d\u00fc\u015fen \u00e7ift, para y\u00f6n\u00fcnden de birbirlerinden talepte bulundular. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131 ise zamanla babalar\u0131n\u0131n cinsel kimli\u011fini \u00f6\u011frendi ve \u015fok ge\u00e7irdiler, hatta bir tanesi fiziksel olarak kendine zarar vermeye ba\u015flad\u0131 ve ak\u0131l hastanesine kald\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131.<\/p>\n

Sonras\u0131nda eski e\u015finin cinsiyet de\u011fi\u015ftirme s\u00fcrecine ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, hormon ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, ad\u0131n\u0131 Charlize olarak de\u011fi\u015ftirdi\u011fini ve ameliyat oldu\u011funu \u00f6\u011frenen kad\u0131n, \u201cEski e\u015fimin bununla nas\u0131l ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131 konusunda hala tamamen \u015fa\u015fk\u0131n\u0131m. Baz\u0131 psikoterapistler, ge\u00e7i\u015f yapan baz\u0131 insanlar\u0131n, sonunda \u00f6zg\u00fcr olabilmekten ba\u015fka bir \u015fey d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnemeyecekleri bir duruma girdiklerini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrler. T\u00fcm hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 kendileri olmamakla ge\u00e7irdiler ve ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131klar\u0131nda art\u0131k zamanlar\u0131n\u0131n geldi\u011fini hissediyorlar. Ancak, d\u00fcnyadaki t\u00fcm nezaket ve anlay\u0131\u015fa ra\u011fmen, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z, aileniz, hayat arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in bu, hala b\u00fcy\u00fck bir meydan okuma.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n

Kad\u0131n son olarak, \u201cOn y\u0131l sonra, d\u00fczl\u00fc\u011fe \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yoruz. En k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz 18 ya\u015f\u0131na gelene kadar evimizde kalmak i\u00e7in m\u00fccadele ettim ve ba\u015fard\u0131m. \u00c7ok \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr yeni bir ili\u015fki i\u00e7indeyim ve \u00fc\u00e7 \u00e7ocu\u011fum da sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde hayatla ba\u015f ediyor.\u201d dedi.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00dc\u00e7 \u00e7ocuk annesi bir kad\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fcnyas\u0131, kocas\u0131n\u0131n asl\u0131nda kendisini “kad\u0131n gibi” hissetti\u011fini \u00f6\u011frendikten sonra ba\u015f\u0131na y\u0131k\u0131ld\u0131.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":101704,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[33],"tags":[3139,765,209,556],"class_list":["post-101703","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-yasam","tag-cift","tag-cocuk","tag-kadin","tag-yas"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/101703","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=101703"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/101703\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":101705,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/101703\/revisions\/101705"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/101704"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=101703"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=101703"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=101703"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}