{"id":98762,"date":"2023-06-15T02:35:05","date_gmt":"2023-06-15T02:35:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/?p=98762"},"modified":"2023-06-15T02:35:05","modified_gmt":"2023-06-15T02:35:05","slug":"sinav-kaygisiyla-nasil-basa-cikilir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/?p=98762","title":{"rendered":"S\u0131nav kayg\u0131s\u0131yla nas\u0131l ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131k\u0131l\u0131r?"},"content":{"rendered":"

17-18 Haziran’da ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirilecek YKS \u00f6ncesi \u00f6\u011frenciler gergin bir bekleyi\u015f i\u00e7inde\u2026 Ancak s\u0131nav ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131na etki edebilen bu durumun \u00fcstesinden gelmenin \u00e7e\u015fitli yollar\u0131 var. \u00d6zellikle son y\u0131llar\u0131n en bilimsel kan\u0131t temelli yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 olan Kabul ve Adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131k Terapisi’nin (ACT) bu kayg\u0131lara y\u00f6nelik etkili yakla\u015f\u0131m yollar\u0131 sundu\u011funu belirten Uzman Psikolog Levent Do\u011fan, \u201cS\u00f6z konusu y\u00f6ntemdeki ama\u00e7, kayg\u0131y\u0131 kontrol etmek ya da ondan kurtulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak de\u011fil bu duyguyu do\u011fal bir durum olarak kabul etmektir. B\u00f6ylelikle duygular\u0131n s\u0131nava olan etkisi y\u00f6netilebilir\u201d dedi ve \u00f6\u011frencilerle ebeveynlere \u015fu \u00f6nerilerde bulundu:<\/p>\n

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Levent Do\u011fan<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

\u00d6\u011frenciler i\u00e7in \u00f6neriler<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

S\u0131nava hangi de\u011ferlerle girece\u011finizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn<\/b><\/p>\n

S\u0131navdan hemen \u00f6nce, s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz bu eylemin hangi de\u011ferlerinizle ilgili oldu\u011funu ke\u015ffedin. Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmak, kabul g\u00f6rmek, onay almak, sayg\u0131 g\u00f6rmek gibi bask\u0131 unsuru olan \u00f6\u011frenilmi\u015f hedefleriniz yerine s\u0131nava hangi de\u011ferlerle girece\u011finizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn. \u00d6\u011frenen, geli\u015fen, katk\u0131 sa\u011flayan, yetkinle\u015fen ve ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z bir birey olma gibi de\u011ferleriniz varsa tespit edin ve bu s\u0131nava girmenin bu de\u011ferlere y\u00f6nelik adanm\u0131\u015f bir eylem oldu\u011funu kendinize hat\u0131rlat\u0131n. Ek olarak, en az bir y\u0131ld\u0131r verdi\u011finiz eme\u011fi de takdir edin. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc t\u00fcm bu haz\u0131rl\u0131k s\u00fcreci, t\u0131pk\u0131 bu s\u0131nava girmek gibi, de\u011ferlerinize y\u00f6nelik kararl\u0131 ve adanm\u0131\u015f davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kapsar.<\/p>\n

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Kayg\u0131y\u0131 ola\u011fan kar\u015f\u0131lay\u0131n<\/b><\/p>\n

Kayg\u0131 ve stres, s\u0131navlar gibi y\u00fcksek bask\u0131l\u0131 ya\u015fant\u0131lara verdi\u011fimiz do\u011fal tepkilerdir. Kayg\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 y\u00f6netmek yerine, bu duyguyu ola\u011fan kar\u015f\u0131lay\u0131n. Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalara g\u00f6re duygular, onlar\u0131 y\u00f6netmeye ve azaltmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131k\u00e7a kal\u0131c\u0131 hale gelir. Onlar\u0131 ola\u011fan kar\u015f\u0131lar ve g\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc bir \u015fekilde ya\u015fanmas\u0131na alan a\u00e7arsak, yapmakta oldu\u011fumuz \u015feyler \u00fczerine etkileri azal\u0131r. Ola\u011fan ve do\u011fal kar\u015f\u0131lanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, kayg\u0131n\u0131z panik haline d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir; karar verme, problem \u00e7\u00f6zme ve odaklanma gibi en \u00e7ok ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011funuz bili\u015fsel becerileri ketleyebilir. G\u00f6n\u00fcll\u00fc bir \u015fekilde onu tan\u0131mlay\u0131p ola\u011fanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabul etti\u011finizde ise, duygunuzla ili\u015fkiniz yap\u0131lan\u0131r ve daha bilin\u00e7li bir \u015fekilde s\u0131nav\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 s\u00fcrd\u00fcrebilirsiniz.<\/p>\n

Ebeveynler ne yapmal\u0131?<\/span><\/b><\/p>\n

G\u00fcvenli bir ileti\u015fim \u015fart<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00d6\u011frenciler i\u00e7in zorlu ve kayg\u0131l\u0131 ge\u00e7en bu s\u00fcre\u00e7 ayn\u0131 zamanda ebeveynler i\u00e7in de olduk\u00e7a zorlay\u0131c\u0131yd\u0131. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun potansiyelini ya\u015famas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak ad\u0131na fedakarl\u0131klar yapan bir ebeveyn olarak, bu son g\u00fcnlerde ve hatta s\u0131nav\u0131n ard\u0131ndan \u015f\u00f6yle bir yol izlemelisiniz.<\/p>\n

\u00d6nce \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun duygular\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fcvenle ifade edebilmesine alan a\u00e7\u0131n. Onlara nas\u0131l hissettiklerini, yarg\u0131s\u0131z ve ko\u015fulsuz bir yakla\u015f\u0131mla sorarak duygular\u0131 hakk\u0131nda konu\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flay\u0131n. Onlar\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zda, \u201c\u00e7ok korkuyorum; acayip gerginim\u201d gibi duygular\u0131 ifade ederken g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fczde tela\u015flanmay\u0131n. Bu duygular\u0131 hafifletmek i\u00e7in telkinler ve tavsiyeler vermek yerine onlar\u0131 aktif bir \u015fekilde sadece dinleyin, duygular\u0131n\u0131n do\u011fall\u0131\u011f\u0131na ve ola\u011fanl\u0131\u011f\u0131na vurgular yap\u0131n. Ayr\u0131ca bu ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n, k\u0131ymetli bir deneyim oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlat\u0131n. Bu noktada k\u0131yaslamalardan da uzak durun. \u201cBak di\u011ferleri nas\u0131l rahat sen niye bu kadar kafana tak\u0131yorsun. Halledeceksin merak etme.\u201d gibi ifadeleriniz iyi niyetli olsa da olumlu veya olumsuz k\u0131yaslama \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu ileti\u015fime ve duygular\u0131na kapatabilir. Ek olarak, \u015fimdiye kadar \u00f6n\u00fcne bir rol model koyduysan\u0131z, onunla k\u0131yaslamay\u0131 da sonland\u0131r\u0131n. \u00d6rne\u011fin, \u201cbak kuzenin \u015fu s\u0131nav g\u00fcn\u00fc b\u00f6yle b\u00f6yle yapm\u0131\u015f rahat ge\u00e7mi\u015f s\u0131nav\u0131\u201d gibi s\u00f6ylemler de \u00e7ocu\u011fa yine \u201cbir \u015feyler yap ve bu duygunu azalt\u201d mesaj\u0131 iletmekte ve bu t\u00fcm bahsetti\u011fim yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 y\u0131kmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7abas\u0131 i\u00e7in takdir edin<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun s\u0131nav sonucu sizin ne kadar ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir ebeveyn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 g\u00f6stermeyecek. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun ne kadar de\u011ferli biri olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da\u2026 S\u0131navdan evvelki konu\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131zda, sonu\u00e7tan beklentilerinizi ve ba\u015far\u0131y\u0131 \u00f6nemseyi\u015finizi vurgularsan\u0131z s\u0131nav an\u0131ndaki kayg\u0131lar\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. Bu nedenle, \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu s\u0131navdan hemen \u00f6nce t\u00fcm s\u00fcre\u00e7 ve \u00e7abas\u0131 i\u00e7in takdir edin. Bunu bir kural olarak de\u011fil ger\u00e7ekten samimiyetle ve iyi niyetle yap\u0131n. Sonu\u00e7tan ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z onu sevdi\u011finizi ve ko\u015fulsuz bir \u015fekilde kabul etti\u011finizi ifade edin. Zihniniz size \u201ctabii ki \u00f6yle evet ama bunu yaparsam gev\u015feyip sorumsuzla\u015f\u0131r. S\u0131nava verdi\u011fi \u00f6nem azal\u0131r\u201d diyor olabilir. Buna ra\u011fmen onu ko\u015fulsuz kabul eden yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n asl\u0131nda s\u0131nav performans\u0131na katk\u0131 sa\u011flayaca\u011f\u0131ndan emin olabilirsiniz. Bunun ayr\u0131ca aran\u0131zdaki t\u00fcm ili\u015fkinin kalitesine de katk\u0131s\u0131 olacakt\u0131r. Bununla birlikte, kendinizi de takdir etmeyi unutmay\u0131n. Sizler de gerek ki\u015fisel vaktinizden ve masraflar\u0131n\u0131zdan k\u0131s\u0131p evlad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n e\u011fitimine yat\u0131r\u0131m yapt\u0131n\u0131z. Sonu\u00e7la ilgilenmeniz yine do\u011fal ancak bu noktada sizler de bu yakla\u015f\u0131m\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n alt\u0131ndaki aile ve e\u011fitim de\u011ferlerinize y\u00f6nelirseniz, daha esnek ve kaliteli sonu\u00e7lar alabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00dc\u00e7 milyondan fazla \u00f6\u011frencinin girece\u011fi Y\u00fcksek\u00f6\u011fretim Kurumlar\u0131 S\u0131nav\u0131 (YKS) i\u00e7in geri say\u0131m ba\u015flad\u0131. Uzman Psikolog Levent Do\u011fan, dolay\u0131s\u0131yla \u00f6\u011frencilerin kayg\u0131 ve stres seviyesinin giderek artt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ancak bu duygularla ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kabilmenin uygulanabilir yollar\u0131 oldu\u011funu belirtti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":98763,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[12447,12446,12445,2288,4161],"class_list":["post-98762","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-gundem","tag-cocugunuzu","tag-duygulari","tag-kaygi","tag-sinav","tag-yap"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/98762","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=98762"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/98762\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":98764,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/98762\/revisions\/98764"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/98763"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=98762"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=98762"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/haberulus.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=98762"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}